There is someone in my past who many of you will recognize without naming. That's NOT what my blogs are for. That said, this individual has a seemly unending supply of anger, confronted, they will misquote the Bible and assure you it's a RIGHTEOUS ANGER. Years of exposure to this has left me drained of the energy it takes to be angry, at least for more than the moment. Anger has to have fuel to be sustained. My own rage was startling, to say the least. But once my head cleared, and I looked at What emotional bucket had been kicked, I found violations of my person, physical, emotional that I would NOT have had cause to activity of recall. Personal betrayal, some, I NEVER _have had cause to speak of to anyone. But common theme was personal trust broken, in a manner that resonates with disregard for my personhood. In each case, a person once given some degree of trust, committed an act that, to me, seems only possible if you (they that was them) have objectified me to level that I as an individual ceased to exist, NOT pleasant experience. Rape, emotionally is the only term that honestly expresses these experiences. Harsh word, but I'm not sharing to sugarcoat life. Relieved that I got a grip on the startling violent rage I experienced, but strolling down memory lane, it's more like finding yourself suddenly in "Knockturn Alley" (Harry Potter reference there).
Evil that wo/men will do.... It's a wonder how they can look themselves in the mirror, and meet their own eyes. I can turn the other cheek, But slap it also. Delete file/ toxin not permitted. Very few severe offenders get 3rd strike. Twice bitten, that's sufficient. Sure, people make mistakes. But this is something beyond "I'm sorry "....
Once you cross that line, violation of my person. It is allowed to do delete on relationship.
Yes, I KNOW Luke 17:1-4 may say different, but it also says "if they repent " .... that's their part they own. Sadly, most violators either accept full weight and measure of their betrayal AND/OR root cause is still within them. People have the right to perseverance of selfhood.
If you have been trespassed against, the LORD is NOT expecting you forgive a rapists for the sake of your violator, but that YOU have peace in your own soul.
Just my take on life.....