Promises, promises

I have learned long ago, not to make "promises" you cannot keep. Sometimes it was as simple as if one of my children asked if we were "going back home today " after out of town trips were winding down- I'd tell them that's the plan …but anything could change that, like car trouble. So, no PROMISE, but my intention.
I PROMISED, took an OATH, on a CHURCH, before GOD, and plenty of other witnesses, that I would honor and keep the Sacrament of Marriage. And I did just that. When there were times that my former spouse, at his own admission, was upset with me, because he had deliberately set out to, at the very minimum, had hoped to incite discourse and hopefully a negative emotional reaction from me- and he was angry at his failure to provoke me, often confused at my apparent lack of anger, I FORGAVE HIM. I was aware of his past, his "baggage", if you will. Previous relationship (s) were often so adversarial in nature and that wasn't me. I have often felt bad that love, affection, honesty, kindness, and always being willing to forgive and move forward weren't enough. I made PROMISES, I tried to keep them, and broke NONE that, historically, would have been "cause" to set aside a wife. Just because it wasn't a success, wasn't because I gave cause.
Being so cautious with Promises, it hurts more than most people really grasp, when they"promise " me something. I rather you swear to do your very best and tell me you "planned intentions" , than promise me ANYTHING. IT'S BREAKING MY HEART FOLKS. I LOVE AND CARE VERY MUCH, FOR SO MANY PEOPLE. Can you just do your best? Don't swear or promise something bigger than what you've got. Hurts too much...